There are no soulmates (!), and other lessons about relationships and marriage

Great article from The Atlantic about the elements that make up a strong relationship/marriage. The "there are no soulmates" line really caught my eye because this issues comes up quite a bit in my work with couples. Those that buy into the soulmate concept generally tend to have the expectation (sometimes subconsciously) that when you find "the one", relationships should just "click' and be easy -- which is quite unrealistic.  If strife or difficulty appear in the relationship, they may take that as a sign that it was "not meant to be", which reduce the chances of the relationship working out. 

https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2014/02/the-first-lesson-of-marriage-101-there-are-no-soul-mates/283712/

  

Albert Pignataro