Couples Therapy
Therapy to Help You Both Feel Heard Again
It’s not really about who did or didn’t do the house chore of choice. It’s about the tension underneath — the patterns you’re stuck in, the things that go unsaid, the ways you each feel alone even when you’re together.
Couples therapy can help you break that cycle. This work isn’t about blaming one person or tallying wins — it’s about getting honest, getting real, and rebuilding something stronger together.
When you can finally name what’s happening underneath, you can start to shift it. That’s where change happens: not in winning arguments, but in learning how to fight less, listen more, and reconnect.
Couples Therapy — For When Things Feel Harder Than They Used To
The spark didn’t vanish—it just went on the back burner
You care about each other, but something’s off. The spark, the ease, the feeling that you're on the same side — it’s harder to find lately. Conversations get tense. Distance creeps in. And you're not sure how to shift it without making things worse.
Couples therapy can help you get out of that loop. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, newly committed, or somewhere in between — this work is about rebuilding connection, clarity, and trust.
It’s not about who didn’t do the dishes.
it’s about what got left unsaid.
So many couples come in with surface fights — over chores, texting habits, parenting styles — but underneath all of it is usually something deeper:
A longing to be understood. Resentments that never got voiced. Stories about not feeling like a priority, not being chosen, not being seen.
Relationship counseling gives you space to uncover those patterns — and break them.
Together, we’ll look at:
How you each show up in conflict (and why)
What hurts haven’t healed — even if you thought you moved on
The unspoken rules you’ve both been following that are no longer working
How to repair without defensiveness, blame, or scorekeeping
How to reconnect with clarity, respect, and openness
And yes, we’ll talk about resentments — the obvious ones, and the unconscious ones too. Therapy gives those things a place to land, so they don’t keep showing up in sideways ways.
My approach: Real, direct, relational.
No scripts. No jargon. Just conversations that matter
I use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) — a model that gets under the surface, fast. We don’t just swap out communication tools. We get into the real dynamic between you: how each of you protects yourselves, how those defenses clash, and what it takes to create real change in the relationship.
I also integrate parts work (IFS) — helping you understand the inner systems that flare up when things feel unsafe. Maybe a part of you gets loud and critical. Or a part of you disappears altogether. Therapy can help you unblend from those reactions and show up more clearly with your partner.
This isn’t passive therapy — and it’s not conflict bootcamp either. I work best with thoughtful, emotionally invested couples who want honest feedback, and who are ready to take ownership of their side of the dynamic. If things have gotten explosive or emotionally unsafe, this may not be the right fit. But if you still care about each other — and you’re both ready to do something different — this work can be deeply transformative.
Let’s get to the heart of it.
After all, you just want to feel chosen again
If you’re tired of walking on eggshells, having the same argument again and again, or drifting further apart — couples therapy can help you change the story.
Not by forcing agreement, but by helping you listen differently, speak more clearly, and rebuild safety together.
If that’s what you’re looking for, reach out. Let’s talk and see if this work is the right fit for your relationship.
FAQ for Couples Therapy
Does couples therapy mean we’re failing?
No. It means you care enough to stop pretending everything’s fine and actually deal with the friction. Straight or queer, couples who wait until they’re barely holding on usually wish they’d started sooner.
Will you take sides?
Nope. I’m not here to referee. My role is to help both of you cut through the static and actually hear what’s underneath. And yes, that applies whether you’re a husband and wife, two boyfriends, or a poly triad.
Do we need to be in crisis?
Not at all. Therapy isn’t just for the brink. It’s for strengthening trust before cracks spread—whether that’s in a marriage, long-term partnership, or chosen family.
Is this couples therapy only for straight people?
No. I’m queer myself, and this is a space where you don’t have to explain your culture, defend your relationship, or decode microaggressions while doing the hard work. This isn’t “tolerance”—it’s belonging.
What if one of us wants therapy more than the other?
That’s common. One of you drags the other in, and the resistance is real. But if you both stay in the room, the process works—no matter who you love or how your relationship looks.
Reach out and let’s start the conversation.
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