Therapy for Men
You’ve done everything you were supposed to do.
You show up.You work hard. You take care of things. Maybe you’re successful. Maybe you’re exhausted.
Maybe you’ve never said out loud how lonely, stuck, or numb you actually feel.
You were taught to man up, not open up.
You’ve been holding it in—anger, doubt, sadness—because somewhere along the way, you learned those feelings weren’t welcome. So you got good at powering through, staying silent, pretending it doesn’t hurt. But it does. Whether it shows up as anxiety, depression, anger, or a quiet disconnection from people you care about, the weight is real. Therapy isn’t about making you less of a man. It’s about helping you stop disappearing—and become the authentic man you’ve wanted to be all along.
Men aren’t taught to talk about this stuff
You learned to perform, not to feel.
Most men were never shown how to name what’s going on inside. You learned to be strong, keep your emotions in check, and fix problems instead of talking about them. Now you’re carrying a weight you don’t even have words for.
It shows up in ways you might not expect
Coping by shutting down isn’t coping at all
Constant pressure to prove yourself
Anger or irritability that comes out sideways
Feeling disconnected from your partner, friends, or even your goals
Guilt or shame for not being “grateful” when things look fine on paper
Numbing out with work, porn, scrolling — whatever keeps the noise down
When numbing stops working, you find new ways to cope: overworking, overtraining, drinking, even compulsive self-improvement. They’re not random — they’re just the tools you were given. Therapy for men gives you better ones.
This isn’t just “talk about your feelings”
Less couch clichés, more getting unstuck
This isn’t about getting in touch with your emotions just to do it. It’s about understanding why they’ve been buried for so long — and what it costs you to keep them hidden. It’s about breaking cycles that don’t work, and figuring out who you actually are beneath the pressure and performance.
What we work on in therapy
Reclaiming parts of yourself you were taught to cut away.
In psychotherapy for men, we look at what’s underneath the surface. We’ll work on:
Naming emotions without judgment or apology
Untangling self-worth from achievement or dominance
Looking at where your rules about masculinity came from — and if they still fit
Making room for connection, purpose, and agency — on your terms
This isn’t a lecture. It isn’t a shame session. It’s the honest conversation you’ve probably needed for years.
What can shift
Develop your strength that includes softness, not a harder shell.
Men I work with often tell me they feel:
Less defensive, more clear about what they actually want
Calmer and more connected, with less inner noise
Stronger — in ways that include softness, presence, and truth
Let’s talk
Because, let’s face it: silence isn’t strength. Owning your shit is.
If you’re tired of holding it all in and ready to figure out who you are without the mask, I’m here for that. No judgment. No BS. Just real work, with someone who knows what it means to carry this kind of silence.
I offer therapy for men in San Jose, CA and online throughout California.
FAQ for Men’s Therapy
Do I have to bare my soul right away?
Nope. We go at your pace. Therapy isn’t about spilling everything on day one—it’s about building enough trust to actually say the stuff you usually swallow.
Does going to therapy mean I’m weak?
No. Weakness is pretending you don’t need help while you’re quietly falling apart. Strength is owning your reality and doing something about it.
What if I don’t even know what I’m feeling?
That’s fine. A lot of men weren’t given the vocabulary for feelings beyond anger or sarcasm. We’ll work together to make sense of what’s under the surface.
I’ve tried powering through—why isn’t that enough?
Because powering through keeps you isolated. Therapy isn’t about grinding harder—it’s about not having to white-knuckle your way through life alone.
Do I need to be in crisis to start?
No. Most of the men I work with come in before they hit rock bottom. If you’re already asking the question, that’s enough of a reason to start.
Reach out and let’s start the conversation.
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