Gay, Bi & Queer Men’s Mental Health
You’ve figured out how to survive in a world that wasn’t built for you. Maybe you’ve even built a life that looks pretty good from the outside. But surviving isn’t the same as thriving—and looking fine isn’t the same as feeling free.
Therapy for gay, bi, and queer men isn’t just about dealing with the past. It’s about making space for the parts of you that had to go quiet just to get by. The parts that still scan the room. That still brace for judgment. That still wonder if you’re too much, or not enough, or just permanently outside the circle.
For some, this looks like drinking more than they mean to. Or zoning out with sex, apps, weed, work—anything that takes the edge off. Not because you’re reckless, but because sometimes that’s the only way it’s felt safe to exist.
It can show up like this:
Shame that lingers, even if you’re out and proud
Dating fatigue or hookup burnout
Family dynamics that still sting
Overachievement as a shield
Numbing out with work, sex, substances, or perfectionism
Feeling like you’re performing in every space, even the queer ones
It’s not about being broken. It’s about what you had to do to belong, and what it’s cost you.
What we work on in therapy
As a cis gay man myself, this isn’t theoretical—I know what it means to navigate a world that often asks you to shrink, hide, or translate who you are. That’s part of why I do this work, and why therapy with me is explicitly affirming, safe, and grounded in lived experience. I’ve lived the tension between being who you are and being who the world says you should be—and I bring that lived reality into this work with honesty and care.
I offer a space where you don’t have to explain the basics. Where you can talk about sex, shame, family, masculinity, body image, and everything in between without code-switching or censoring yourself.
We work on:
Making sense of your story without judgment
Untangling self-worth from achievement, validation, or approval
Exploring intimacy, identity, and desire with nuance
Healing the subtle and not-so-subtle ways the world has told you you’re not enough
This is a space for all of you–the ambitious parts, the tender parts, the scared parts, and the unapologetically queer parts.
What starts to shift
Less shame and more self-respect
Less proving, more belonging
A stronger connection to who you are when no one else is watching
Let’s talk
If you’re ready to stop performing and start healing, I’m here for it. This isn’t therapy that tolerates you—this is therapy that gets you.