Therapy for Men

Men aren’t taught to talk about this stuff

Most men were never shown how to name what’s going on inside. You learned to be strong, keep your emotions in check, and fix problems instead of talking about them. Now you’re carrying a weight you don’t even have words for.

It shows up in ways you might not expect

• Constant pressure to prove yourself

• Anger or irritability that comes out sideways

• Feeling disconnected from your partner, friends, or even your goals

• Guilt or shame for not being “grateful” when things look fine on paper

• Numbing out with work, porn, scrolling — whatever keeps the noise down

When numbing stops working, you find new ways to cope: overworking, overtraining, drinking, even compulsive self-improvement. They’re not random — they’re just the tools you were given. Therapy for men gives you better ones.

This isn’t just “talk about your feelings”

This isn’t about getting in touch with your emotions just to do it. It’s about understanding why they’ve been buried for so long — and what it costs you to keep them hidden. It’s about breaking cycles that don’t work, and figuring out who you actually are beneath the pressure and performance.

What we work on in therapy

In psychotherapy for men, we look at what’s underneath the surface. We’ll work on:

• Naming emotions without judgment or apology

• Untangling self-worth from achievement or dominance

• Looking at where your rules about masculinity came from — and if they still fit

• Making room for connection, purpose, and agency — on your terms

This isn’t a lecture. It isn’t a shame session. It’s the honest conversation you’ve probably needed for years.

What can shift

Men I work with often tell me they feel:

• Less defensive, more clear about what they actually want

• Calmer and more connected, with less inner noise

• Stronger — in ways that include softness, presence, and truth

Let’s talk

If you’re tired of holding it all in and ready to figure out who you are without the mask, I’m here for that. No judgment. No BS. Just real work, with someone who knows what it means to carry this kind of silence.

I offer therapy for men in San Jose, CA and online throughout California.